Sex has been a fad for the longest time and like any fashionable item - its acceptance comes and goes in its general cyclical nature. I've seen two posts about Sex so am forced to have one as well. Its the new fad!
Puma... yes, everyone wore Puma through the 80's. Then the 90's came. No more Puma. 2000 hits and it was Puma fever again. I'm not suggesting that Puma is like sex, or pumas are sexy creatures.... or... ok ok.
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I don't need to highlight the "fashion of sex" in the 60's & 70's. Nor do I need to talk about the cylcical nature of conservatism. And its funny how "sex" is tied to conservatism isn't it?
Because (and as Dr. Kinsey would argue) - it has nothing to do with morality, ethics etc. It is purely biological. The only reason it becomes emotional is because biologically our senses are heightened at the time. Well, some senses are heightened... common "sense" sometimes deserts us - but thats a different story. Women suddeny have a higher threshold for pain while in congress. Men, have a brain and a penis but only enough blood to run one at a time. Its a frightening combination of a dozen such factors that cause complications.
But who put sex on a pedestal?.. and why? I promise you that it wasn't my contribution to the suggestion box. But its there. High on top of the totem pole - right above "thou shalt not kill".
As a brown blooded, Indian...
Shout out: East-side Desi niggaz in da house wha wha!?
Yes. I am... in fact... down like that.
- I always get the feeling that we are far more conservative about sex than the rest of the progressive world. Why? Clearly there's a LOT of f-in goin' on back home... its a bloody miracle that there isn't daylight bangin' on the streets at the rate we're multiplying.
...but.. but (giggle) i'm so shy about it... you dirty... dirty... mmmm.... boy... yeah...
Tubby CHUP!
My advice to the savers. And we all know the savers - "i'm saving myself for that special moment and that special time". Life's too f'in short to be "saving" yourself. To begin with why is it called "saving yourself"? Ever thought of that? And what are you saving yourself for? Marriage? - jesus. Even while my boy J.C. went around the world (presumably for the years 12-33 - unaccounted for in the Bible) - what the hell do you think he was doing? I'd like to conjecture but... perhaps another time.
Break out - live free - do what you want. "Savers" - yes you think you are doing what you want (as I recommend) - but really you're not. A self-imposed restriction automatically negates living freely. Choosing to limit your choices, while a choice itself, holistically kills your freedom. You can face that fact or lie to yourself.
(Note: ugly chicks please continue to lie to yourself and remain conservative. Thanks.)
cf* - 'I'd like to live the love I sing about - in my song' - B.B. King
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Dr. Kingsley.. hehe.. one helluva movie.. whichever way you choose to look at it!
So where do you fit in? amongst the truly 'liberal' or the really hypocritical lot which preaches living freely w.r.t oneself, but not when it comes to their future wives..?
I posted a comment that read " your an idiot and don't know what your talking about." but Aman deleted it so I am posting again :)
Hey, thanks for the bday wishes :-)
hey aman, what exactly was ur objection with my comment on anahat's post?
life can't just be about mindless sex..yes that works too..but not all the time. and im not giving him kudos for anything else but the courage to put up a post that requires introspection and facing some harsh truths bout all ur broken relationships.
waiting for ur reply..post it on my blog if u plz.
hey aman..this is so damn funny, i told anahat that ur comments seem directed towards him not me, but he wouldn't agree. he said sissy = woman, and that the post was directed against me.
on the meaningless sex bit, i assumed coz of the way u wrote f*** her n duck when the husband comes ;)
n the kudos were given coz anahat was inspired by my post 'the man who loved me' to write his own. n many ppl won't have the courage to admit all thats gone wrong (i've said this already but newayz)
n yes he told me u guys were chuddy buddies.
thx for the props, i'll keep writing, hope u keep reading. cheers!
for my readers, *Serendipty* is referring to a comment i posted on:
http://anahat.blogspot.com/2006/11/one-life-to-live.html
she wrote to me on my blog (see comment above)
i responded on her blog as follows:
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"To begin with, I was calling anahat a sissy - not you.
And just like you assumed i was calling you a sissy, you also seem to assume that all i want out of life is "meaningless sex"... and so i preach the same.
If you really paid attention to my comment on Anahat's blog - you'll notice that my point was in some ways was similar to your angry comment on my blog - that just like the song, there is a "time to live, a time to heal"... etc. etc... a time to introspect.
NOW... being that i've known Anahat for hmmm... 25 even years - I think I'm fairly well positioned to call him a bloody sissy in his "time of introspection".
SO -
(a) i don't think you should presume to know (let alone judge) my objectives or aspirations in life - (i.e. meaningless sex). Aside from the simple fact that your are wrong - i never said it was "meaningless"... i can go on... and on... and on.
(b) in truth, and setting aside my general saracasm and penchant for humor (much effort required) - i stick by my "sissy" comment to anahat. Fact is, yes -you can't go through life as a slut - but you can't go through life second-guessing EVERY bloody move you make. Introspection is good if you're using it for something.
Fact: He spent a long-ass blog apologizing for a dozen things and blaming himself for some sort of "failure" in his relationships.
(a) sheer acknowledgement of a wrong-doing absolves you of nothing! so what is your kudos for? his courage? He has done nothing courageous but acknowledge wrong-doing. It is the ACTION that defines courage. I'll wait for that. (Personally i don't think he's failed anywhere but whatever...)
(b) beating yourself up over the past is a waste of time. They're just bloody relationships - glamorized and time-stamped like commercials. I've known him well before his tatts dropped and will be well informed when he meets his match (THEN - its a different story).
As far as the "meaningless sex" goes. As most presumptious human beings (myself included) don't make the two commonest mistakes of:
1. Undermining biological/natural will.
2. Placing far too great an emphasis on "meaning" as attached by us humans to the act of sex. "Meaning" is a nice carpet we've strewn together in our MOST arrogant objective of logically defining our "Purpose" on this planet.
Note: I like your blog - keep writing."
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...just thought I'd keep everyone in the loop.
:) u are very right there my friend. we all need a friend like that, who'll torture us now and then.
post something new? hmm have u read thru my whole blog? im flattered
whoa!
that request for something new was somebody else on your blog.
(clearly with a lot of time on their hands)
oops yes it was someone else..sorry cant have that comment on.
anahat thinks u are just being nice to me coz u don't know me..i disagree..get my contact id from him or send me yours if you're game..lets see what happens when we gang up on him ;)
two on one.. my favourite odds.. bring it on..
Y'all are seriously wasting your time.
For something that you, Aman, say shouldn't be pedestalised.. u've spent a whole bunch a time "updating" your readers.
Torture Anahat all you will but with reference to the action part.. "He has done nothing courageous but acknowledge wrong-doing. It is the ACTION that defines courage. I'll wait for that."
You don't know if he hasn't done anything about it already.
Just because you are chuddy buds doesn't mean you will know everything as soon as it happens. Some things, including apologies, happen in the natural course of things which don't go unnoticed but without ever being acknowledged. Saves both sides an extremely awkward moment that potentially could do more damage than the actual cause for the apology.
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